ASK YOURSELF: When it Comes to Online Dating, You Don't Understand...

...why the same trolls who would never have the balls to ask you out in person, somehow seem to muster up enough iCourage to harass you online for a date?

Why on earth do You think this is?

Please answer by commenting to this post (see link below) so all of us can get to the bottom of this horrible gay injustice!

Here's what some of You have been saying:

Not Yet Famous said...
Online makes it safer for them. If you say no, they've put absolutely no *real* effort into you, plus there's no public embarrassment. Or maybe they're simply too lazy to get off their fat asses and hoof it to a club...or any other meeting place.
May 15, 2008 12:41 AM

Justin said...
I wonder that myself...I suppose it's because they feel they can deal with the rejection better online than in person.
May 15, 2008 12:51 AM

Anonymous said...
It's probably like buying things with a credit card vs. cash...while deep down you know it's real and that you're accumulating some sort of debt (in the case of the resilient trolls, rejection)you have grown accustomed to the quasi-nature of it all.Also, emails, texts and such can be interpreted in any number of ways, so unless a rejection is spelled out, perhaps the troll just doesn't realize his pursuits are a waste of his time.-NPBPB
May 15, 2008 9:24 AM

Sancho said...
This is a pretty common phenomena in all areas of interaction over the internet. One popular website has defined it as "John Gabriel's Greater Internet F*ckwad Theory". It was recently cited in an Advocate story about online homophobia. Basically the "formula" is: "Normal Person + Anonymity + Audience = Total F*ckwad".While being rather graphic, it is accurate. The internet provides a medium of complete anonymity where a person can be whoever they want. In the "online dating" realm the rule still applies, just in a slightly modified format. Assuming the person is using their own pictures (let's not even consider imposters), then some degree of anonymity is lost. The portion at play here is that this isn't true human to human communication/contact. This person is just typing words into a keyboard to transmit them to a digital representation of someone else. There is an enormous chasm of "human contact" missing compared to making a connection with someone in a bar or other physical social situation.Online dating is nice, but I'm always wary of depending completely upon it to meet people. Nothing beats ACTUAL human contact and socializing.
May 15, 2008 10:05 AM

patrick_atlanta said...
There may be some return-on-investment strategy at play. Think about it from a time aspect - by having an online profile and a few canned lines, you could hit on a hundred guys in the same amount of time that you could maybe hit on 5 at the bar. That being said, instead of actually reading your online profile with the far-fetched hopes of seeing something like "I love short, obese, semi-closeted gentleman that are 20-years my senior", Mr. Troll can instead just scatter his flirts across every attractive guy on the internet and pray that there is at least one that is just that lonely... or just possible into short, obese, semi-closeted gentleman that are 20-years their senior.
May 15, 2008 9:32 PM

Anonymous said...
You've given this a lot of thought, and decided in the end, you secretly appreciate the troll fags who hit on you, because you know that the alternative would be too damaging to your ego.Yes, you are annoyed when you go online and instantly get winks and chats from repulsive, toothless fags whose profile pics remind you of something out of a B-horror movie. But sometimes that's all you get, which is at least something.Just think if even the hideous troll fags didn't hit on you! And deep down, you know it's kind of fun to reject 10 fags in an hour... even if they are repulsive.
May 16, 2008 12:43 AM

Benjamin said...
I think we have this fictitious belief that somehow the guys we talk to online are more (their profiles usually state) "down-to-earth", "laid-back", "chill", etc, etc. We feel a sense of security from reading these adjectives and thus feel more inclined to put our so-called "similar" personalities out there. In reality, most gay-guys aren't "chill" nor "laid-back"...cmon, give me a break. We're stressed out, overworked, sleep deprived fags who struggle just to make it in this intense city. How the f can a person say their chill in NYC? Sorry, unless your made out of mucho $$, you're struggling and therefore often "not-chill." This already is a red-flag for my online dating mantra. Does that mean all gay-guys are lying on their about me sections? (not always, but stretching the truth sure seems easy in the homo world) It's all about reading between the "iLines." Meanwhile as Samantha puts it, "You gotta get online honey. If only for the porn."
May 16, 2008 8:39 AM

Shane said...
Ha ha ha. I missed this yesterday cause I was celebrating the gay marriage thing here in Cali but......after reading the responses I had to laugh at the fact that almost all of the guys that responded kept saying "they" as if referring to other guys which makes me think....

Only GQ models were replying to your poll. LMFAO
May 16, 2008 1:02 PM